I hate to have 2 different threads deticated to me on the first page, but I am expierence a very difficult time right now.The problem is my mom. I know we all have parent problems but try living with mine. One problem is that I am not allowed to come on the computer even though I bought it. If I do come on it then it is used for business aka her bank statements,Avon and her mail.She hates these forums even though she has never been here and I went to one of my friends websites at webshot and this friend was in a bikini my mom stubled upon this tonight (even though I cleaned the history) and smy mom says she was a hoe.WTF she doesnt know her.The other problem is I am stuck with her meaning that I can go nowhere and I can do nothing. I have no liscence b/c we cant afford it (insuarance is 300 a month) and she handles my money meaning that she uses the money for her bills and some of mine. She is just getting on my nerves with telling me how to use my computer and telling me to always clean the house which I get tired of doing when doesnt apprciate it and thats the other problem. My house is not that bad but its bad enough and when I get home from work she thinks I should be doing nothing but cleaning while she sits on her ass watching tv and doing bills. She also has the lamest excuses for things like right now we have netflix and she hates even though its free; she doesnt like b/c the disks might scratches or viruses and you don't know where they have been,but thats the same thing at blockbuster of couse she said thats not the same. Now she's thinking about kicking me out or putting me in a damn group home. I mean how should I deal with her? I try to talk with her but she gets all mad if I tell her the truth and she starts to pout b/c I am wright

Either a) slap her in the face or b) you're over 18, set up your own bank account and handle your own money. I'm only 16 and I handle my own money. Just show you're responsible enough to do it. And it's your damn computer so you tell her that you paid for it so you can use it. For the house thing, just do stuff without her asking. That simple. Once she asks you to clean the dishes and you're already done them, she won't care anymore.

1) How old are you?

I've got to know this before I can offer any advice. It changes a lot depending on your age. Trust me.

Ok, well since you haven't responded, here is some advice.

1) If you are 18 go to the local bank. There is sure to be one within walking distance. Open up an account and have you job direct deposit your checks into the account. You can then pay your mom if you feel she needs it. This may cause problems though, so do think it over.

I'd recommend going above and beyond working in the house. I know it is hard, but see if it makes a difference?

2) If you are not 18, go to the Department of Family and Children Services. I know this seems hard, but you can have them at least listen to what is going on.

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I am 18 going on 19 in august.I have hit her before and came very close on wensday when she was being a huge pain. If I hit her again I will never post on the boards if you know what I mean. I have my oen bank account with her on it though and my car is her name so I have to let her pay for it.I also have 200 a month in credit cards otherwise I have money So any advice guys?

She can't really put you in a group home, can she?

I mean, you are 18.

II dont think she can put me in a group home but she can try. I actually cant walk to the bank considering I live in the country 8 miles from everything which was a reason while in school I never had friends(that and my mom never wanted me to be with them).I am basically stuck which sucks.

Ok, seeing as that you have a "history of violence" that weakens your case.

Ok, for the bank account, open a non-custodial account. She will have to sign off on the one with you in order to convert it, so just open another one.

As far as the car, that is tough. I'm not sure what to say on that.

You're almost 19. Go to a college with on-site dormitories and call it a day. Never under any circumstances should one resort to physical violence, so don't hit your mother, its just wrong no matter how frustrated you are. That's pretty much all I can offer as suggestions.

Wow. Tough situation.

Do you have any friends with empty rooms? Have you tried talking to her? Have you tried consulting any counseling agencies?

We had been going to counsuling since I was in 8th grade but neither has been recently. I actually have no friends around here all my friends go to UD(university of delaware) which is 2 hours away. I threw an icecream bowl at her 2 years ago after she and I had an argument and she called the cops. See I would have more friends but my mom has scared em away; I mean I was part of Key club and she refused to take me so I got my elder neighbor to take me and she called the cops saying I went without her permisson and they actually picked me up from the meeting and brought me home. I was also in band in 9th grade and she got mad at one of my friends and called her a bitch. I mean my friends know thats shes a pain in the butt which has basically made everyone think I am like weird(I am) or something. I am bipolar btw or so she says.

This is a really complicated situation. Are you still in highschool or have you graduated? As far as personal debt, do you have a lot?

I'm not really sure what to say but you need to do something.

You gotta stop playing the blame game. You can only reach maturity when you strike everyone off your blame list.

Yes I am graduated from High school.see the other thread. As far as fincial debt probaly 2,000 in credit cards.Rusty, I am trying not to play the blame game b/c I dont blame her for nothing except being a pain in the butt

Your 18. Get your own goddamn apartment. Go to college. Quit your whining. Your mother couldn't be that bad, otherwise you would be out of there by now.
Where's Lovemerox? I'm sure he has some hippy social worker crap he can give you.

Also, pay off your credit cards. You have $200 a month in credit card payments. If you paid them off thats $200 that could go towards an apartment.

I wish I could help you but I am in the same boat.

Need to get on the forums but Mom's getting angry?

Step 1: "Mom! Look over there!"



Mom turns. A look of suspicion forms on her brow - wait a minute...

Step 2:



That'll get you 8 hours of free surfing time and when she comes to, she won't even know what hit her.

Need a license but don't have the cash?

Step 1: Print this off.



Step 2: Before driving, dress like so:



Other than that I can't help you.

NEVER EVER HIT YOUR MOTHER!
Save your money, open your own bank account, and move out as soon as you're ready and can afford to.

never stop loving your mother.

You are 19 years old. First of all, have a civil discussion with your mother and try to resolve the issues that are bothering you. If it doesn't work, do what dolcevita suggested.

I really thinking hitting your mother is going too far. But I understand where all the rage is coming from, I HEAR YA!!!! But if your mother is that horrible, just go to school, get a dorm/apartment, graduate, and get a home as far away from your mother. Your mother sounds like she will never change, BUT YOU CAN!!! Prove to your mom that you are more then what she makes of you, prove to her that you ARE the bombizzle! :wink:

Actually, if we take your mom's impressions, and your later admissions of being biopolar and violent, and then add your descriptions of inappropriate behavior from the thread where you complained that you feel you were unfairly fired, a pattern emerges. It sounds to me, based on the little info that I have, that the problem is you.

I was a kind of "mentor" for a 15 year old biopolar kid who has similar issues. He also describes his wonderful, wonderful mother as an absolute monster, despite the fact that she supports him in nearly every endeavor and I know her better than I know him (she and I worked togehter). I know how their blame game works, and I know the wacky way in which they interperet their parents actions. This may not be the case, but we can't tell based on this.

Maybe a group home would be good for you? Maybe you need some therapy. It would get you out of the situation with your mother, that may resolve a lot of issues.

Also, you mentioned you work, surely there is some banks you can go to while you are at lunch. Obviously a financial institution (even one in a supermarket) isn't going to be too far away from some banks.

I would suggest trying to set up a counseling appointment with your mother. Just start fresh...if that fails I would recommend wha dolce said...finding a college with dorms. Sometimes all kids and their parents need is time apart...

Yeah, I have to agree LMX. A break for both of you may not be a bad thing.

Brent, you're a man now. You are allowed to move out and get your own place and make your own rules. Moving out is awesome. I got along great with my parents, and basically did whatever I wanted whenever I wanted to, but moving out was just the best. As long as you're under her roof, it's her rules. Don't even think about hitting your mom. I don't know how you guys are with eachother, but if you fight and don't talk, you're not going to work anything out. Maybe you should try changing your approach with her, and talk to her like an adult, without any tone in your voice or pissy look on your face. I don't know if that's how you are around her, but you sound tense, so I'm guessing you are.

I'm trying to be sympathetic here, but your whining comes off as immature and somewhat unfounded.


your might have problems with your mom but that is no reason to use violence. Given that, and other things you mention, why would she not want to keep certain limits on you. And since you are living with her she has a right to do that to a certain extent.

Everybody's already given you pretty good advice, so I'll jsut tell you to folow it. Manage your own money, pay rent/move out or something. I don't want to be too harsh but I keep rolling my eyes at your posts when you keep blaming others for your problems ALL THE TIME. It's always your mom's fault, or all the managers you work with ALL happen to have something against you and decide it's ok to go aorund lying, even when it comes to something as serious as sexual harrassment if it's the only way to get you fired. Taking some responsibility would be a nice start for you, I think. Either that or you really are one of the most unfortunate, unlucky guys in the world.