I'm old enough to remember when men started wearing earrings, and many of the same arguments came through: people will think you're gay!

Nope. But that's because you should wax them. I'm not joking. If you're that worried about hair, and everyone has their points of insecurities (I have extra in fact if anyone is looking for a hand-out), then go for it, but don't shave. Think about adult male beards...yes, now think about what happens if you've shaved for a couple years....yep, same thing. I know some people that don't mind shaving, but I know people who also regretted it deeply because it actually strengthens roots and makes hair grow back stronger, darker, and thicker. Anywho, look into better ways is all if you are considering this seriously. Me? I would do it if I was too worried, but you're talking to someone who has already done some pretty intense stuff so take my suggestions with a grain of salt.