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But, for the typical snot who is being a snot simply for the sake of being ignorant, here is what you do. Put her money where her mouth is.
Dirty rooms? Well, these habits tend to start in early childhood. If rules were enforced, there wouldn't be a dirty room. You either clean your room or you lose a part of it. If something is on the floor, it is obviously something you don't need then. That's the way you work that. Once they start losing a couple things to the dumpster out back, you will see how fast that room gets clean.
She can take care of herself? Let her try it. Not as easy as it sounds. From this point on, all phones will be cut, no meals cooked, no laundry done, no money shall exchange hands whatsoever for any reason, and she must earn her food through an afterschool job. If she has to wash bathrooms or even pick up cow drippings on a farm, then that's what she has to do. This should curb the attitude very quickly. If it doesn't and she actually succeeds at doing this, she is way ahead of the game, a motivated individual, and probably won't have much trouble as an adult. It's a great test really.
You could even go as far as making her move onto the sidewalk. But, this might be illegal in your state.
Or just send her to college, if possible. That certainly works.
It takes an iron will to prescribe the measures you set forth; within hours of taking effect, family politics will seem like North Korean nuclear talks. A strong constitution is necessary to weather the inevitable emotional battering she dishes out.
