Let's say you were have an unplanned pregnancy, be it rape or birth control fail. You're going to decide to carry it based on your response. So answer these questions:

This isn't a post to attack or call you out or anything of the sort. I'm genuinely curious how you'd react/respond in these situations. But don't reply if you don't want to either.

Q1: What if a doctor said your life could be at risk at any point in the pregnancy? And if not your life, the life of the baby is at risk, and will likely experience complications in life that require expensive medical care, treatments, and near constant supervision throughout most of their life? Are you in a position to drop what you're doing and take care of this child? You're in college, yes? And I think you have a job. So just let me know what you'd do.

(I know a YouTuber (TheJWittz) who had a baby this past spring. Unfortunately, their newborn had to be placed in NICU for about one week I believe. The baby survived, thankfully. However, they received an $80,000 medical bill after their insurance only covered $20,000 (or 20%) of the original $100,000 bill. They already pay $1,200 a month for this insurance because America's health care system is broken. Yes, a life is priceless. Unfortunately, such a bill is crippling to the majority of Americans due to ridiculous medical costs, and it can impact their lives for a very, very long time.)

Q2: What if your employer said you couldn't have maternity leave, or if you did receive it, it was for unpaid for just 6 weeks? Can you afford to give up your job, take a break from college, if you needed to for your child? You might be lucky enough to have family to help you care for a newborn, but not everyone does. (I know a woman who is only getting 6 weeks of unpaid maternity leave in a few months. She's married and the baby was planned and everything, and her husband can take care of the baby at home. But not everyone is as prepared).

Q3: You decide that you're NOT in a position to care for this child, so you decide along the way to prepare to let it go via an adoption agency or other channel. Are you really okay with giving up your child? Would you be prepared mentally? Would you be ready for one day years down the road to be contacted by this child, perhaps as late as adulthood now? It's easier than ever for relinquished children to find and contact their birth mother/parents. Check out this reddit thread if interested in this particular question: https://www.reddit.com/r/birthparents/c ... _not_want/

Obviously this question cannot be answered by anyone but the mother of the child or those that have had similar problems. It's not a position one can simply put themselves in. Sometimes a reunion between a birth mother and their relinquished child can be a healthy enough relationship. Sometimes it causes one or both to have real mental health issues all throughout their lives that can lead down a very dark path where resentment takes control. But for the sake of this question, try if you're willing to answer.